Monday, December 2, 2013

Giving Back

We cannot give what we do not have and we do not have what we cannot give.

We have come to yet another end of a semester for LHGH. This is a time of graduation for students who have attended and worked with adult accountability partners. 
Yet, just as a high school student graduates from a small world into a larger one, the students of LHGH don't graduate from recovery but into a much larger world of recovery... Helping Others!


Monday, October 28, 2013

Me... Confess?

What's the first thing that comes to your mind when you hear "Confess"?

For me, growing up in a rough neighborhood, confession was not a good thing. It was something you just didn't do... not if you liked coming out of the house. Confession carried with it words like "snitch", "Rat", and "Tattletale". Those where things I did not want to be.

Knowing my background, my first sponsor said to me, "George, have you ever told on someone?" No was my answer. He then said, "Well you better learn how..... cause you're going to have to learn to tell on yourself if you want to get better!" I have never forgotten that. How about you?


Monday, October 21, 2013

Life Review

Let's face it... we don't like to face it!

There is something powerful about putting pen to paper, about writing down the things that bother us the most. It's like, for the first time we actually have to SEE the mess for what it is. So why is it so hard for many of us to do? 

Do we really have to acknowledge the pain? Do we really have to bring up all the hurt? Do we really have to tell someone else about it? These are just a few of the stumbling blocks that get in our way of being brutally honest with ourselves. Are you ready?

Monday, October 14, 2013

Unearth!

We've all heard the saying "skeletons in the closet". We know that we're talking about the secrets people keep. Some of us have heard the saying "We're only as sick as our secrets." So, what secrets you keep buried will determine your mental, emotional and physical health.

Keeping skeletons hidden or dressed up can be a tiring and daunting task. It seems like the more we try to cover up our pain the greater it becomes. So what is the cure? How do we rid ourselves of the things we keep in hiding?

If you are willing to journey with us, we will begin the process of unearthing what we have covered up and allow God to shine his light upon our darkness. Are you willing...

Monday, September 30, 2013

Building Trust

What takes years to build and seconds to break? Trust! Chances are if we are having life issues and dealing with hurt and pain then we have some serious trust issues. Maybe we feel like we can't trust our parents, our friends, or anyone for that matter. Maybe we have been let down so many times we have given up on trying to build up any real trust. So, what makes trusting God any different? How can we know He's not a cosmic let down?

Sunday, September 22, 2013

If Nothing Changes, Nothing Changes!

Misery loves company. It's almost as if the moment you start making changes your friends start complaining that you've changed! Well Duh! Do you have those people in your life? The ones who don't want you to change or tell you that you won't be able to change?

But what if you could? What if there was a power switch you could flick and change? Would that bring you a little hope? Would you be eager to hit the switch to change the way you respond to hurt and pain in your life, or would you just want the switch to rid you of the hurt and pain? Think about the most painful thing in your life right now... would you just want it to go away, or learn how to get through it? For you... is change an event, like a magic trick, or a process like getting into shape?

Monday, September 16, 2013

The Great Escape

Have you ever wished you could just be somewhere else? As hurt and pain begin to mount up do you look for that trap door, exit stage left, the quickest way out of your pain? Maybe a good video game, some time spent watching the T.V., or playing sports is how you have learned to escape. Or maybe you have used more destructive things like alcohol, drugs, sex, or fighting. Do you find yourself trying to avoid the pain in you life at any cost and at every turn? Has the build up of ignored hurt caused you to become detached from the reality of circumstances in your life? Do you believe everything will just go away... in time?

Tuesday, September 3, 2013

2013 Fall Semester "Denial"

Life is filled with pain. We all find ways to deal with it. Some push themselves in sports or education while others lose themselves in substance abuse or self harm.

No matter what our coping mechanism is, good or bad, it's just a mask to cover up the hurt in our lives. Sooner or later we are faced with the question, "Am I ready to admit my powerlessness and ask for help?" If there is one thing that can be promised it's this, YOU DON'T HAVE TO LIVE LIKE THIS ANYMORE! Here's why...

Monday, July 15, 2013

Why Won't You Get In?

On June 23rd 2013 Nik Wellenda crossed The Grand Canyon on a tight rope. This death defying act had it's doubters and supporters I am sure. Yet, now that he has done it, Do you believe he could do it again? What if he said this time he would take a wheelbarrow across? Would you believe he could? If you say you would have faith in Nik taking the wheelbarrow, what would you say if he told you to get in it? Would you be so faithful to his abilities then?

Monday, July 8, 2013

Reaching Out

My mother-in-law use to call me a Maverick Christian. At first I thought it was kinda cool, like being an outlaw. I even took a little pride in being "that guy". I seriously thought I was "the guy" everyone should talk to because I had all the answers! I didn't need anyone... after all, I had God!

One day a man told me something I will never forget; "There is no such thing as a Lone Ranger Christian". To be a "Lone Ranger" is to deny Christ all together! Feel like the Lone Ranger?


Monday, July 1, 2013

Can We Fix it?

My three year old son sometimes watches "Bob the Builder". Bob's theme song is;

"Can we fix it? Yes we can!"

Most of us dance to the same tune when it comes to our hurts, habits, and hang-ups. If we have enough information, enough encouragement, and all the right tools then we can fix any problem in our life. The trouble with this is we try and fix it on our own, which we have learned is not a good place for us to be.

A mentor of mine was known for saying it this way:

God has fixed a fix to fix you but you have tried fixing the fix that God has fixed to fix you, so God fixes another fix to fix you.

Monday, June 24, 2013

The Art of Confession

Whether it's to the priest or the police, most of us have a warped at best view of confession. Either way, it's as if we tell our secret and someone uses it against us. Have you ever had the opportunity to tell your secret in a safe place? To a safe person? In the presence of a safe God? If not, then there is great news for you!

Monday, June 3, 2013

The Yoke

"I’ve had the crappiest month of my life. A family member died, and then my friend died four days later and that really sucked. Anyway, I’ve been having suicidal thoughts for a while now, and I don’t really know what to do. I actually tried to kill myself twice by swallowing a bunch of pills, but it didn’t work and that
really ticked me off. I did OD though, and that was interesting... kinda cool, really. I probably shouldn’t even send this, but I’m going against my better judgment and doing it anyway.
"
 - Email from a 16-year-old girl to LHGH Pastor in California. (used with permission)

Sunday, May 26, 2013

Rearrange

If you are anything like I was then you understand what I mean when I say "I grew comfortable in my pain". It was as if I had grown accustomed to how things were and I was afraid to make any changes. Sure, it hurt, but the pain became a normal part of life; like eating, breathing, or crying... a lot of crying.

When the pain gets great enough you will move from needing change to wanting change. How great did my pain need to get? How much more could I take? Was I becoming more numb by the day? Somewhere deep down inside I knew I needed change, but did I really want it? I mean REALLY?

How great does your pain need to be for you?

Monday, May 20, 2013

Unplugged Life

What happens when we pull the plug on a lamp? The light goes out. This is easy enough to fix, but what happens when the light goes out in our lives? How do we fix that?

All of us have attempted to change. Most of us have spent all of our energies in trying new formulas or methods in order to improve our lives. Sadly, if you are reading this article, those formulas and methods have have only provided a temporary at best solution to what feels like a permanent problem. We are left with an "on again off again" problem that seems to drain us of any power we thought we might have had.

Where do we go from here?



Sunday, May 12, 2013

Worry

It has been said that even when you do a hundred things right, it is the one wrong thing you do that people will remember. Well, what about us? I think we are a whole lot more guilty of this concerning ourselves!

If you are anything like me, I spend way to much time planning my failure, thinking about all that has gone wrong, and finding all the places I think God isn't at work in my life. Exhausting doesn't even come close to the emotional drain that worry has on us! So what's the answer?


Friday, April 12, 2013

Summer Semester 2013

Summer Semester Begins May 6th

LHGH 2013 Summer Semester
Monday Nights 6pm-8pm @ The S.H.E.D. Student Center
Immanuel Church 455 58th Avenue SW Vero Beach, Fl 32968
May 6,13,20,27 (Lesson 1,2,3,4)
June 3,10,17,24 (Lessons 5,6,7,8)
July 1,8,15,22,29 (Lessons 9,10,11,12,13)
Graduation Party to be announced 



 If you are an adult and interested in becoming a LHGHs facilitator with ReBirth Ministry or Starting a LHGHs in your area, We are hosting a Leadership Training Seminar (Free) at the location above
Saturday April 20th 2013 9am 

contact us at george@lifehurtsgodhealsirc.com  

You can help support LHGH IRC by supporting ReBirth Ministry. Find out how to become a partner by clicking on the image below.

This student ministry is brought to you by:


Monday, April 1, 2013

The Great Give Back

In life, we can graduate from many things...pain is not one of them. We have all experienced hurt to some degree, some more than others. Pain has come, pain has gone, and pain will return. It is in this vicious cycle that our LHGHs tools become so vital.

 What we learn at LHGH isn't just for us to keep, to cling to tightly as if it were a precious treasure of limited resource. It is quite the opposite! These tools are for us to give away! To use for helping others! We cling to these principles because they are a precious treasure of unlimited resource. We share because someone shared them with us! We share because God won't waste our pain! Are you sharing your tools?

Monday, March 25, 2013

Eager or Exhausted?

It's that moment when we just can't take one more minute. We are too tired to spend any time with God, we are not interested in showing love to anyone....especially the one who annoys us the most. It's those moments when serving others is the furthest thing from our minds!

We all have them, it's what we do in the midst of them that determines the course of our actions. Have you felt exhausted emotionally? Has trying to use your LHGH tools caused you frustration? Do you feel as if you have hit an emotional boiling point? You are not alone! So, what do we do?

Monday, March 18, 2013

Undeserved Grace

There is a lot in today's culture that expresses the need to "earn our keep". We have to earn trust, respect, honor, authority, and for most cases... love from other people. No wonder we become so good at putting on the mask and becoming whatever we need to in order to gain the acceptance of others.

For those of us with deep hurts, we have a tendency to ruin the list above. With all of the pain we have received and all of the pain we have dished out we are constantly bombarded with the resounding thunder clap of "You don't deserve...".

With our defenses up, our hands aren't out to receive, but up to resend. Though we don't deserve, we are unable to accept. How are you holding your hands today?


Monday, March 11, 2013

Reaching Out

It's funny how one of the hardest things to do in recovery is ask for help. At times it feels like the phone weighs 500 pounds, people are always trying to "tell me what to do", people are always digging in our business, and  it always seems we are getting pushed into an uncomfortable place.

We need to realize that we cannot do recovery of any hurt, habit or hang-up alone. We need others to spur, encourage, and tell us the truth... even when we don't want to hear it.

When it comes to giving/taking forgiveness, help is crucial. Are you ready to reach out and ask for help in giving and receiving forgiveness? Are you ready to do whatever it takes no matter the result?



Monday, March 4, 2013

Accepting God's Help

Have you ever met that person who thinks they have it all figured out? It's almost as if every topic or conversation they are trying to prove a point that they know what is best... they know what is okay. Ever notice that the more they talk the more the more ridiculous the argument becomes.

Now here is the big question... are you, or have you ever been that person?



Sunday, February 17, 2013

Life Review: Victim & Chooser

We Are Only As Sick As Our Secrets

Introspection isn't always pretty. Likely, if you are reading this article, it is flat out brutal. We do a rather well job at keeping secrets from others. We can even keep secrets from ourselves if we are not willing to honestly look at our problems. Yet, when it comes to God, there is no such thing as a secret. So why do we act as if we can keep them from Him? Are you ready to allow God to shine His light on the dark places you have been trying to hide?

Sunday, February 10, 2013

Reli-Able

Being Able to Rely On God
For many of us, we have been let down more times than we like to keep track of. Most of the perpetrators have been those closest to us, those who have caused us the most pain. So the idea of being able to trust in Someone we can't necessarily see is a foreign concept. You're not alone! While immersed in pain and confusion, trusting in God can seem the hard choice. It's so easy to trust in what we know, but doing that has landed us here in the first place hasn't it?

Monday, February 4, 2013

The Letter C Is For...

"C... C is for Coookie!"

As much as I love cookies, today C is not for cookie. Have you ever noticed when Cookie Monster opens a bag of cookies, he is COMMITTED to eating all of the them!

We commit ourselves to all kinds of things in life. Some commitments we keep and some we break. What are some of the major commitments in your life right now? What commitments have you not been so committed to?

If things are going to change, we must learn to understand what & Who to be committed to. It's time we took a good look at "The Big C" in our lives.


Monday, January 21, 2013

Hope of Change

Why are we so afraid of change? We go throughout most of our lives doing the same things over and over again expecting different results. When the opportunity for change actually comes it's almost as if we have become so use to doing things our way that the thought of change overwhelms us. Some of us might even be at the point that we know we need change, but are still holding back because it seems there is no light at the end of the tunnel. We're afraid that if we attempt change it just won't work. But if we could see the door just crack open a bit... HOPE!


Sunday, January 13, 2013

Only If....

There is this game that we all play. For most of us it is brutally painful and torturous. There is only one main contestant, but many levels and combatants. The sad part about this game is we NEVER win.

"The Only Ifs..."

Is there an "only if..." circumstance in your life right now? You know, "only if something different happened, my life would be better". Have you ever wondered how do we get through this sick and painful game we play on ourselves? We try our best to just "not think about it", yet the game goes on. We are left feeling helpless, worthless, and most of all powerless to end our pain. Are you ready for change?